Panda has been trying to be a good girl. She didn't blog at all during work yesterday and only a little bit today... It's a bid to try and get more done :
It's been a hot, sweaty, uncomfortable journey home from work these last few days. On the tube, the Metropolitan line has 20mph speed restrictions because of the heat and this means a one and a half hour journey of being trapped between sweaty, stinky people in 45 degree heat (no exaggeration). We're so crammed in that I don't even have to hold onto a rail not to fall over - if we all decided to take both our feet off the floor at the same time, we'd all still be in exactly the same place. Whinge whinge, moan moan - we Brits seem to do a lot of that about the weather, huh? Lol, it's our fave pasttime whether it be hot or cold :)
I wanted to talk about the Spiral/Aisleyne/Nakedness thing on Big Brother. For those of you who haven't been watching or aren't in the UK, it was like this:
Spiral was in the shower, naked; Aisleyne, also in the bathroom, playfully splashed some water on him; Spiral jumped out, holding his bits and backed Aisleyne into a corner.
She was obviously uncomfortable with it, and understandably so - surely, this is only a feather away from sexual harrassment? What annoyed me was that, upon being asked about it by Big Brother - Spiral got pissed off with Aisleyne for talking to BB about it! WTF?! He tried to defend himself by saying that she asked for it because she threw water on him. But he was in the shower for
*@#?s sake! What's a little more water going to do??
To make it eeeeeven worse, when Aisleyne, in a mature way, tried to tell him that she wasn't comfortable with his behaviour, he told her that he didn't like the way she flaunted her body and wore short skirts, insinuating that if a girl likes to look good and wear sexy clothing, that she should expect to be treated this way. The arrogance of the b*@~#! not only does he not feel any remorse whatsoever, but how dare he justify his behaviour, and also shatter a girl's confidence in one swoop?! This type of thinking worries me hugely, because if this is the view of even a tiny percentage of the men out there, then us girls should all be covering up. It's a teensy little step away from saying that if you bare any skin, then it's okay for men to grope you, sexually harass you - a mere step away from rape.
I am surprised at BB for not giving him a warning - this behaviour is NOT socially acceptable and should not have to be tolerated. By not reprimanding him, they are telling their viewers that it's okay to behave like this, and it's not. Using your body or sexuality to intimidate and humiliate others is NOT okay.
Then, a couple of days later, whilst Aisleyne was sunbathing, Mikey comes up and bites her arse-cheek. This just confirms my fear that most men hold this derogatory and frankly, animal-like view of women. Please tell me I'm wrong.
I am only 23 years old. To this date, I have had to deal with sexual harrassment more times then I can count on one hand; a couple of cases of which have been quite serious. Am I wrong to be scared? And who's fault is it that this view is still widely held by men, if not openly then at least inside their heads? Is it the parents? Is it the media? What's for sure is that it needs to stop NOW.